good bye to my father-in-law

i guess every death leaves regrets behind.
i’m so sorry that my father in-law passed away such a sudden way, just a year after retirement and just before become a grand daddy…
i didn’t have chance to talk with him deeply, since we don’t know each other’s language well..
i regret i couldn’t do any for him or for Jessie….

it was Saturday morning we got a sudden call from Jessie’s mom – and we found Jessie’s dad had partial paralysis after rushing to their house. i thought it would not be a big one since it went back to normal by the time we bring him to near by hospital. maybe i just hoped so. or maybe i just didn’t believe things like this will come to us.
even himself thought like that, he said he’d like to go back home. which only made him to call me again on afternoon to bring him back to hospital…

after the admission to the hospital, looked like he was getting better. but then…on Sunday morning, Jessie and i found he was already in a coma. Jessie’s mom start crying.
i’ve seen my grandmother had a stroke and then had a coma.
she passed those long steps in more than a decade. but for my father in-law, it was just a day.

all the relatives came to hospital.
after one night, he passed away.
worst part was that we couldn’t do anything….

it’s been only one and half year that we become in-laws. i’m the newest one in the family. neverthless, you took same care to all of us. i don’t feel any distance between us…
you were a fun loving uncle who can share jokes to everybody.. only that i can’t make all of them understood.
i know how difficult for you to accept the foreigner son-in-law at first.
i understand awkward feeling when we are together but can’t freely talk with each other.
maybe that’s why we tried to understand more and tried to put each other first. really you didn’t need that.
although you didn’t tell me, it was so obvious you care us…. such as give me a hottest pepper to chew. ha. well, sorry for the sour skittles…

your brother’s name ends with 山 and yours ends with 水, i guess Jessie’s grand parents loved to see you be a person like the mother nature. i can say you were like that. give all the efforts, love and help to grow your child, accept what you got and be happy with them….

Jessie and her mom is now getting better but they will miss you ever, without you our family will never be same.
who can make us laugh over the dinner table, and who can make the great dinner as you usually did? who can we rely on all those decisions and others?
i’ll try, i know i can’t make a good cook, but i’ll try to… that’s what i can do to mourn you and remember you. i’ll gratefully succeed your task lists for Jess, her mom and our future kids.
when our kids grow up, we will let them know how kind and nice person you were…
please be in peace, and be with us. we will always miss you. bye.